Shuck and Jive

Sunday, April 06, 2008

Your Loved One is Gay: Now What?

This is from the PFLAG website:

Your first reaction to learning that your loved one is gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, or questioning can range anywhere from anger to sadness, fear to hurt, confusion to grief, and anywhere and everything in between. These emotions and the thousands of others that parents, families, and friends experience as they navigate their loved ones coming out process are normal.

We can tell you with absolute certainty that you're not alone. According to statistics, one in every ten people in this country and around the world is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender (GLBT). Approximately one in four families has an immediate family member who is GLBT, and most people have at least one GLBT individual in their extended circle of friends and family.

Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) is here for you. Our members are parents, families and friends of GLBT people and GLBT people themselves. We have been through much of what you are now feeling. We understand.

The first thing you should do for yourself and your loved one is to talk to someone who has been through this process. Whether it is by e-mail, phone or in-person at a PFLAG meeting listening to and talking to those who have experienced the feelings you are encountering can be both cathartic and comforting. PFLAG has more than 500 chapters and representatives across the country ready and willing to work with families and friends both in meeting and in a one on one basis. Click here to find a chapter.

If you are in the Johnson City, Bristol, Kingsport area join us for our first meeting, Thursday, April 17th at 7 p.m. on the ETSU campus, #503 Warf-Pickel. E-mail or go to PFLAG Tri-Cities for more information.

You are not alone!


  1. John,
    Amen, amen, amen!

    The smartest thing I did coming out to my parents was give them the number for the local PFLAG chapter. I won't rehash the sob story, so I'll just say that after an unsatisfactory response from our Associate Pastor, they went to PFLAG, where they met a wonderful woman who introduced us to my current pastor. I followed that pastor to a church she was newly installed, and I have never been happier at church.

  2. Thank you, Fly! PFLAG is a great group, but needs the straight allies to step up.